There are billions of people on this planet of ours and yet there are, what many would generally categorise as, a handful of types. Introverts-extraverts, Caring-uncaring, Self-centred vs outwardly focussed etc. As one gets older and hopefully wiser you gain insight into these types and your place in the World and in what camp/s you best fit, even if at times uncomfortably and or inconveniently.
For the sake of this article, which is primarily about the art and business of weddings, I will focus my attention on two dominant mind sets. Firstly let me paint a picture of a common scene when it comes to the nature of nuptials.
There are those for whom the ceremony, that is to say the actual act of both legally and emotionally being joined to another, is the centrepiece of the day. The true reason for celebration and the hours, days, weeks and months of preparation that have led to it. And there are those that think that the trappings, the hoopla, the photos, flowers and limos and the expensive dress is what it is all about. The ceremony serving to provide the rationale for all the above, not the other way around.
There is however a small, but important issue, some may say problem, with the second thought process; it is this… A couple may actually get married without much fuss or many of the trappings if they so choose. A legal wedding ceremony can be conducted with two witnesses and an authorised celebrant. It really could not get more fundamental and uncomplicated than that. Anything added to this is a bonus, but not a necessity.
Likewise you can get yourself a fabulous suit, an amazing dress, hire a limo and enjoy an expensive dinner with family and friends; have a professional photographer and videographer capture your day from early morning till late at night and you can do that any number of times in your lifetime, daily if you could afford to do so. But doing all that will not leave you married. At the end of the day only a wedding ceremony can do that. That is how “Unique” it truly is.
For most couples it is a once in a lifetime occasion and though some couples may succumb to the rigors and stresses of married life, the couple will in some way be legally connected to each other, as their legal marital status is forever changed. A party, a dress, a limo, flowers and a photo shoot simply cannot do that. If it did any high-school kid being asked to a prom would be putting a lot more thought into their choice of date. I do not say this because my area of expertise is ceremony, I say it because it is true.
So give the ceremony the time it deserves in the planning stages. Discuss with your officiant/celebrant your desire to make this the centrepiece of the day upon which the rest develops from. Do so and you may be rewarded with a truly memorable day from start to finish. A great ceremony can lead seamlessly into a fabulous reception; an ill-conceived ceremony can put a damper on things that will be hard to re-ignite.
Your family and friends did not accept your kind invitation to simply party with you, they could do that anytime and anywhere. They came to witness your promises of love and devotion; to take part in a ceremony and wish you and your beloved well. To celebrate your love for another and their love for you both.
Lets together create a ceremony that celebrates that love. One that will linger in the hearts and minds of all that witness it.
Want to know more ? Not sure where to start ? I offer a no-obligation meeting to discuss the ideas above, your wedding day and your desires to make it unique. Lets work together to make it all happen and regardless of whether it is a simply at home service or a huge and elaborate affair we can make it work for you, your fiance, your family and your guests.